It's your fault

Posted by Eric Cedrone on

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A lot of people make resolutions or goals this time of year, but then lose sight of them. Are your goals built for success or doomed from the start?

Make your goals specific with a date, a plan, and quantify it. For example lose 20lbs by 6/1 by packing a lunch M-F and going to the gym on M, W, F rather than a vague goal of improving weight.

Make incremental goals along the way. Adding 100lbs to your deadlift is all well and good but make incremental goals like adding 15lbs by February.

Many goals I see are to form good habits or quit bad ones. I highly suggest Atomic Habits by James Clear. There are 4 parts to creating a habit (do the reverse to break a bad habit). From his book:
Any habit can be broken down into a feedback loop that involves four steps: cue, craving, response, and reward. The Four Laws of Behavior Change are a simple set of rules we can use to build better habits. They are (1) make it obvious, (2) make it attractive, (3) make it easy, and (4) make it satisfying.

I can write a book about this topic and fill a library of similar ones. It's obviously a common human condition to want something but fail when it comes to working at it. Stay the course and at this time next year, you will be where you want to be or on the road to it. If you don't, you'll likely post on social media Dec 31, 2020 that 2020 was rough and list the goals you seek in 2021. You'll receive that little dopamine hit when you get likes and supportive comments, then back to your normal self, just to follow the same feedback loop.

Take ownership of everything. Your successes and failures are yours, they are both your fault. Recognize your excuses, control your inner dialogue, and hold yourself accountable.

I'd wish you good luck, but that takes out accountability. Creating habits and crushing goals is not luck, it is work that you will either choose to do or accept an excuse as to why you can't.


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